How To Be Happy The Complete Guide – 23 Strategies to Increase Your Happiness on a Fundamental Level {UPDATED}.


Everyone wants to be happy!

However, for many people, happiness seems to come and go like waves. One day you feel happy and inspired whilst other days you feel less motivated and more lazy.

So in order to know how to be happy, the fundamental question we first need to ask ourselves first is what is happiness?

We all have concepts and ideas about how to be happy. Many books, seminars, and programs are being offered online to increase our happiness.

But if so many solutions out there are offered and should be working, then why so many people are still not happy every single day? What is missing?


It’s because the reality is that the answer of how to be happy is complex. It is easy and complex at the same time.

Easy means, that once you know it, it’s easy, but if you don’t know how to obtain it or maintain it or keep it, it is very complex.

Over the past 15 years, I have been helping people from all walks of life to learn how to be happy. Not short-term or temporary happiness but long-term sustainable happiness. I’ve lived in Belgium, China, Hong Kong, Spain and ran seminars around the world in companies and individuals to help people find happiness within and teach about the life journey.

So from all those years of experience what I discovered is that happiness comes in two forms.


External Happiness and Internal Happiness


External happiness for example for some people it is having a lot of friends, getting a promotion or you win a prize, or you receive a compliment from someone. External factors have a huge impact on your happiness level. However, most of these factors are temporary in time. We need them regularly, however, it all depends on how well you maintain your external life.


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The quality of your external happiness consists of several factors.


  1. Your Home Environment and Happiness

Having lived in different countries I can say for certain that the external environment has a huge impact on your happiness. Even

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though I loved living in China for many reasons, there was also a lot of pollution, a lot of noise, and doing business in a foreign country with a different language can be challenging. The country you live in, the office you work in, the house you live in affects how you feel and therefore affects your happiness.

If you live in a home but it has a lot of molds and you don’t like the neighborhood but you moved there for economic reasons, it will affect your happiness. The same applies to, if you live in a beautiful home, close to nature, in a good climate, it will affect how you feel on a daily basis and it will influence your happiness level.


  1. Your Work and Happiness

We all know you spend at least 8 hours a day working (most of us) and we spend more time at work than at home with our partner. Many people that I know don’t love their job but work simply for economic reasons. Money is important and we all need, however, if we make money without loving our job, it will affect our happiness.


  1. Your Relationships and Happiness

Professor Robert Walkinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, he is a psychiatrist and performed a Ted Talk in 2015 talking viewed well over 39 million times, talking about what makes a good life. One of the most important aspects was relationships. If you have healthy good quality relationships you are likely to be happier in life. So assessing the quality of relationships you have is key to your long-term happiness.


  1. Money and Happiness

Does money make us happy? Well, if we don’t have money and we have responsibilities to pay for a mortgage or we don’t have enough money to ask someone out on a date for sure it will make us unhappy. But if we do have it, it’s possible that we aren’t happy because we may have other issues in life.

So in general money doesn’t buy happiness, it buys nice experiences it buys necessities and makes our life easy and comfortable, so we definitely need it.

The key is however that buying experiences or necessities only bring us so far in life. It’s just one part of a tool that makes our life more balanced and comfortable. So we need more than money alone. Money is an important part that has an indirect influence on your happiness level.


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Internal Happiness

The second one is internal happiness. Internal happiness is a lot less tangible than external happiness. The happiness that comes from money, work, relationships is a lot more tangible than internal sustainable happiness. If you get a promotion and you feel good, the happiness is caused by the promotion but it fades after a few weeks. If you receive money in your bank account the happiness comes from the money and will fade over time.

Internal happiness works in a different way. Internal happiness does not rely on or depend on the external cause.

How To Be HappyInternal happiness has been studied, taught, and preached by many philosophies and religious teachings. For Buddha, for example, the path to happiness starts from an understanding of the root causes of suffering. By eliminating suffering you will achieve happiness.

In Daoism, happiness is practicing the art of WUWEI. In Chinese, they say that this is the art of doing nothing. Ofcourse, WUWEI doesn’t literally mean doing nothing, it is the ability to not react to external situations for example if someone scratches your car, to let things come and go, to be nonresistant, to allow, not to attach all represent itself in WUWEI. It’s basically to flow with the environment.

Socrates used to say that our true happiness is promoted by doing what is right. When your true utility is served (your soul purpose), you are achieving happiness. Happiness is evident from the long-term effect on the soul.

Mythologist Joseph Campbell well known for his work on the Hero’s Journey said that the most important advice he could give to his students was to hold on unconditionally to those things that generate happiness and that success isn’t related to something outside of ourselves (fame or wealth), but to what we have inside.

All of these philosophies and teachings reference one thing, The Internal Self. Internal Happiness.

As easy as you can take away the external such as losing a job, you break up in a relationship, the harder it is to lose internal happiness, which is a good thing!!


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Internal happiness consists of:


  1. Your Mind and Happiness

Because we cannot control the environment, we can only change the way we manage the environment. In order not to attach, to practice WUWEI such as the Daoist followers. It’s all about managing our minds. To not become angry when we lose our wallets or break our phones. This is nonattachment that is managed by the mind.

As we are becoming more conscious globally there is a strong emphasis on meditation globally and the positive impact it has on our daily lives.

Your mind also includes any mental blockages, these could be fears or limiting beliefs that are holding you back from moving forward in life to stop you from experience real happiness. Imagine you want this girl or guy that you know on a date but you are afraid to get rejected. What will be the underlying emotion? Frustration, suffering, lack of confidence all affect your happiness level because the mind has a fear.


  1. Your Body and Happiness

If your body today is not in optimal health you will not feel happy. If you have difficulty sleeping and you don’t feel refreshed in the morning you will not feel happy. So having your body in the best shape possible is important to experience happiness on a physical level.

Regular exercise, a good diet is key to keep your body healthy.


  1. Your Life’s Purpose and Happiness

Your life’s purpose is also an important part of happiness. Doing what you love for work is an important part to feel fulfilled during your day. Finding your life’s purpose, therefore, is key to live a happy life.


  1. Your Past Life Experiences and Happiness

A divorce, burnout, and unresolved emotional issues all affect the happiness level. When past experiences are not resolved, those experiences create negative emotions. For example, if your father was very controlling when you were young and you are angry about how you were raised, that anger and frustration affect your happiness level. If one day you had an argument with a friend or past boyfriend or girlfriend, it is possible that the unresolved emotional issues create anger or frustration and therefore affect your happiness level.


  1. Your Personal Values and Happiness

Your values are characteristics that are important for you in life. For example, integrity, personal growth, family, money, freedom, adventure… are all values. There are 1000’s of values. You can check on Google for a list of values. It’s important that you learn and identify at least your top 10 values. Why?

Imagine that freedom is one of your values, but you have to work in an office from 8 am till 18pm without much flexibility of working hours, it’s highly likely you will not be happy because your value of freedom is not nurtured.

If personal growth is one of your values and you are looking for constant ways to improve yourself, your value is nurtured and naturally, you will feel happier.

So it’s really important that you know what your values are and that you make decisions according to those values.

The problem for most people is however that they haven’t find the right balance between the two main sources of happiness, internal and external happiness, or they don’t know how to bring these two worlds into more alignment. The external is important but so is internal, so how do you bridge the gap? How can you live a truly happy and sustainable life?


The Life Journey Model and Happiness

Here you can see The Life Journey Model, which is a visual representation of the journey of your life. This model is based on 10 years of research on some of the greatest philosophies and ancient teachings combined with modern-day teachings to help you understand how to live a happy life. You can see that focusing ONLY on the external journey is a journey of suffering (top line) because there is a disconnect of the inner self. Because your soul or heart or spirit is not aligned when you make decisions.


Visual Representation Of The Journey of Life - How To Be Happy?


But also if you only focus on the internal journey on your life (bottom line), it also does not bring happiness because you live in the external world, you have a job, you have responsibilities. You cannot just live and meditate like a Monk in the mountain.

So for you to be happy in your life, the right balance between your internal and external happiness is needed and that gap between those two worlds needs to be closed.

To bridge the gap, internal and external needs to be aligned which brings real sustainable happiness.


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So if you ask yourself now, how to be happy, there are short-term and long terms solutions.


Long terms happiness strategies on how to be happy include:

  1. Heal any emotional trauma’s or pains from childhood (if any)
  2. Work on finding your purpose and path in life and get a job or build a business around your purpose
  3. Connect with your inner child to build a relationship with your inner self
  4. Keep building on financial freedom including making passive income
  5. Live in the present moment daily
  6. Hire a coach or mentor to mentor you on your life journey that helps you bridge that gap


If you want to go deeper into finding your path in life, you can watch this video here for a more detailed explanation:



Short terms strategies on how to be happy include

  1. Have a good support group and friends that you can connect with
  2. Keep a journal to reflect on which areas of your life you need to work on
  3. Take care of your body by eating nutritious food
  4. Be comfortable being alone
  5. Practice gratitude daily
  6. Have an open mind
  7. Upgrade your living environment to live a great comfortable external life
  8. Practice meditation
  9. Read a book weekly or monthly to get new ideas and tools to keep growing


Most self-help books and articles focus on short-term happiness. To achieve long-term happiness you need to bridge the gap within yourself and align both internal and external worlds. It is the journey that we are all on.

So to start walking this journey, to bridge the gap you can now take this 2-minute questionnaire designed by Prof. Dr. Mike Thomson that will help you identify the gap between your internal and external worlds, including a FREE 28 PDF report with your results. Take your free check-up here now.

Once you know the size of the gap you then start working towards living a happier life.

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Raf Adams

Raf Adams

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I am a practical philosopher and write thought pieces and provide perspective on life and leadership to help people to increase the quality of their decision making. By doing so, achieve mental, emotional and spiritual balance be more effective and make a positive difference for themselves, their teams, company and society. If you want to fastrack your results right now, click here to get the Suited Monk book or provide it as a gift for a friend or colleague. Yes I want it!



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