An Unpaved Road Towards Happiness

Your Road is Unpaved

Walking the journey of life is not easy.

If someone tells you otherwise he or she has not lived.

Life is easy when you walk a paved road. The direction is set. There is clarity about the direction to go.

This is the unconscious journey.

Just follow the herd.

And so we walk happily with everyone on this road.

However, sometimes there will be a brick that is not in place and you stumble upon it. Other people don´t seem to stumble but you just happen to stumble on it and suddenly your happiness fades and either your toe hurts, you become angry, or you feel stupid and you hope no one saw that you stumbled.

That brick on the paved way is like a sign. A sign to say: ´´hey change something´´.

Have you ever seen someone hitting the same brick over and over again, in their life and relationships? And they keep hitting the same bricks? And they don´t change?

Why? Because it´s easier to follow the herd.

Bricks are everywhere and they will keep coming until you change something.

A brick in the economy is inflation, and so we print money and inflation keeps rising.

A brick in relationships is attracting a similar narcissistic person over and over again.

A brick in personal life is being a people pleaser and attracting always people taking advantage of you.

These are the daily challenges, and bricks that need to be changed or laid out differently.

Real-life is an unpaved road.

An unpaved way.

When you change your mindset, you will look at the unpaved way in a different way.

Imagine the beginning of the paved way in front of you, the first 20 years of your life. And then after that, there are just bricks. There is no direction, just a pile of bricks.

The way to live life to the fullest is to take ONE brick and lay it out in a way that serves you. Then the next brick aligned with the first one. Then the third brick, then the fourth, and so on… NOT looking at how others lay their bricks. 

Over time you will see that your paved way is like a playground. A playground that is very familiar to you and a playground that serves you. It doesn´t serve someone else, it serves YOU.

When you lay bricks, you can and you will never see where your paved road is going. But that is not important. What is important is the enjoyment of making your road.

The question is where do you see bricks in front of you that you could potentially stumble upon? What bricks have you already stumbled upon? Isn´t it time to repave the way?

Warmly,

Raf Adams