How To End Loneliness

Loneliness. Should we even talk about this? Who is even lonely? It sounds very depressing.

We have fun daily, meeting friends, doing our job, and spending the weekends going to sports events, doing our regular life.

However, in the UK, they have appointed Tracey Crouch as a minister of loneliness. At first, I was very surprised to see this. But then it made sense that it is a big problem. It´s a recognition that it does exist in your life and career.

These days we work hard every day, we make things happen, and we achieve. Then we go out with friends, spend time with the family, do our daily sports regime, finish up a few emails late evening, and then go to sleep.

It is the constant stimulation of the external world that keeps us moving forward. This constant stimulation pulls us away from our inner selves. Rarely do we have time to sit still and just take a moment. A moment for ourselves. A moment to reflect. A moment to just be.

Why? Because the external world is so much more stimulating and constantly asks for our attention.

So what would make you STOP and just take a moment for yourself? What would you feel?

If you really listen well, you might feel a little bit of sadness. Just a little bit.

Sadness for a small disconnect within the self.

Sadness for a decision you once made and regret.

Sadness for an argument you had with your wife or husband or maybe parents.

Sadness for letting someone down.

Sadness for not pursuing the dream job that you always wanted.

And we don´t want that sadness. So what do we do? We cover it up by focusing on the external. Meeting friends, enhancing our careers, and trying to forget what we FEEL.

The one who denies sadness is just occupied in the mind.

Aren’t we EMOTIONAL human beings instead of RATIONAL human beings?

Why would we stop feeling and trying to be someone we are not?

Because we want to be happy. And the external stimulation brings a certain level of happiness. But it is only temporary.

If your external world is not matching your internal self, there is a gap within. A gap that causes sadness, and that gap creates loneliness.

The larger the gap, the more lonely you feel, a bigger gap between your mind and your heart, between what you try to achieve in your life and what you really want within.

The only way loneliness or sadness can be resolved is by bridging the gap within yourself.

And the way to do this is to give yourself SPACE and TIME.

Space and time to first become aware of what you FEEL within. This is why holidays are so important. This is why relaxation time is equally important as working time.

Once you know what you FEEL, you can then transform feelings of sadness into happiness.

So the question is, when did you have your last relaxation time to listen to your inner self?

It is the first step in the journey of bridging the gap within and becoming happy internally and successful externally.

Warmly

Raf Adams

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